Taking your friendship to the dating level can be really daunting. You like this girl and you want to date her. You have been meeting her, and she is friendly. You have read enough to realize that the way you approach her and make your move is going to be crucial to getting you to the next level. Now you want to do it right. So how do you go about it?
Don’t Tell Her That You Are Interested:
I can almost hear you thinking, “Just a moment … I started reading this article to get to know how to tell this wonderful girl that I am interested in her. And now you tell me that I should not tell her.” I understand your confusion. Trust me. Very often, the best way to go past the first obstacle is not to tell the girl that you are interested in her. This is especially true for teenage girls and young women in their early twenties. They are quite contrary. This is particularly true if you have been meeting the girl for some time, and she’s friendly and approachable but does not seem particularly interested in you. They seem to always want guys who do not want them, or notice them. Unless you want her to counter you with the statement “But I thought you were my good friend” do not try the direct approach.
Don’t Try the Loser Act:
This only works in the movies, particularly Jim Carey movies. Girls like boys who have their act together. This is because they themselves are completely confused most of the time. They are unsure, and have a whole lot of confusions in their minds. They want you to solve it, not add to it. Actually do not try any act. Girls are intuitive and can sense an act, even if it is superbly done. Act like a normal person. A regular guy is more likely to get a date. A sham is more likely to become a buddy or an acquaintance.
Get the timing right:
I would suggest the second week of getting to know her. You are someone she knows but she has not slotted you into a “buddy slot” or a “He is just like my brother” slot. So pick the right time when she is in a good mood, and you are having a nice easy conversation. Do not blurt it out. Pace it well, and take it nice and easy.
Follow these steps and you will find taking your relationship to a deeper level very easy.
